Attachment is the deep emotional bond a baby forms with the people who care for them consistently and responsively. First described by psychiatrist John Bowlby, a secure attachment gives children a safe base from which to explore and learn.
Key takeaways
- Babies can form secure attachments with more than one caregiver.
- Responding to a baby's signals, most of the time, builds security; no parent has to be perfect.
- Attachment is built through ordinary daily care.
How does secure attachment develop?
When a baby's cries and cues are answered with comfort, food and attention, they learn that the world is predictable and that their caregiver is reliable. Over the first year this shows up as a clear preference for familiar people, and later as separation and stranger anxiety, which are signs that attachment is forming.
What you can do
- Respond to your baby's cues as consistently as you can.
- Make time for face-to-face play, talking and cuddles.
- Repair after hard moments: a hug and calm voice after you have been short-tempered matter more than never slipping up.
Frequently asked questions
No. Responding to a young baby's needs supports secure attachment rather than spoiling them.
Babies can stay securely attached to their parents while also bonding with consistent, caring carers.